The Wife's Need in her Emotions

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 Where is the wife's need?  Their need is in their emotion.  Brothers tend to just want people to get in line and shape up.  When the decision is made everything should be clear and everyone should submit to the decision.  When others have a different feeling, brothers tend to say, “What do you mean you feel different.  Just do it.”  This kind of attitude brings in conflict and the Bible speaks according to wisdom.  God knows that the husband is not in the realm of love.  He knows that men just want wives to shape up and do what their told without feelings.  But where is the wife?  She is full of feelings, implying her need of security.  Husbands hate to rely on anyone, and we hate to give a hint that we might need something from someone else.  We need a whole lot, but won't admit it.  This tends to be the male constitution.  But women are so different.  God made them emotional with the need of security.  God made them to need their husbands.  </div> <bR> <div>      In Genesis three part of the curse after the fall in the garden of Eden was for the women to need her husband (Genesis 3:16).  In other words God made women that way, even to desire within, “I need covering.  I need protection.  I need security.  I need to trust someone.”  This corresponds directly with Christ and the church.  What do we need as the church?  The Lord doesn't tell us, “You go fight Satan.  Give it the old college try.”  No, this causes us to faint and wither.  The Lord doesn't tell us, “Be tough and face life.”  Instead He sets the example by telling Himself to be tough and face life.  He accomplished redemption for us.  He, through His resurrection and ascension, became the High Priest to minister life to us.  He is the lion of the tribe of Judah.  And who are we?  Wimps.  “I need You, Jesus.  Strengthen me, Jesus.  Help me, Jesus.  Without You, Jesus, I cannot make it.”</div> <bR> <div>      Imagine if the Lord would say to us, “You sissy.  I went through death and resurrection for this?  A wimp?  Stand up and get with it!”  No, he doesn't respond like this at all.  He comes to us and says, “Is everything alright?  Do you feel secure in Me?  Remember I shed My blood to take care of your failures and shortages.”  What a beautiful picture of the husband's role in marriage.  The wife would not have any kind of sense that she is uncovered but would be secure with trust.  The husband speaks consolation to her, “Dear, whatever you need in this marriage life, I am going to be for you.  I'm going to stand for you.”  This renders her a covering, a security and a trust.  There is an understanding by the husband, “ This is my wife.  She is emotional and full of feelings and thoughts.  When I take the headship it is not as a general in the army.  “Sweetie, get in line and follow orders!”  No, there is love.  How do I make my dear wife understand?  I need to take care of her understanding.  I need to take care of her feelings even to sense when she is afraid or worried or concerned.  As the husband I must make her feel so loved, so covered, and so protected.”  It is tragic, but we have all seen friends go through hard times or even divorce in their marriage, and many times it is because the wife has all kinds of needs, yet the husband in his role before the Lord doesn't address nor properly satisfy these needs.  </div> <div>    </div> <div>      I often tell young brothers when they get married, “If the wife is not inwardly happy, it is 100% the husband's problem.”  And then I tell the wife, “If your husband is not so positive towards serving the Lord, toward his life as a whole, it's your problem, not his problem.  If your husband is not growing in Christ and growing humanly, developing, burdened, laboring in Christ, this is the wife's problem.”  (That is explained in the next message.)  The happiness in the Lord, our loving of the Lord is because He is just so wonderful.  Look how much He loves us.  He's going to save us.  He's going to help us to overcome and deal with all our problems.  Oh, how we love Jesus!  Who did this?  Jesus did.  And this is His model towards us when He says, “Husbands love your wives.”  Husbands are to have that kind of love, to provide security, trust, care, and understanding, so that the wife's heart is at rest.  This is the husband's role in marriage.</div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="id404.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Given to Your Wife and Committed to Her"><U>Given to Your Wife and Committed to Her</U></A></div> </td> </tr></table></body>