Wives Submit to Your Own Husbands

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because he's the one that you do not want to submit to in your flesh.  The wife's submission indicates the need of the husband to lead his own family before the Lord.  God made a husband, even built him up, to be the head of the family, to be the leader.  Ironically, what happens is the wife sees the husband's faults (which are many) she wonders how God can allow him to lead at all.  This quickly creates an element that undermines the marriage life.  When the wife dishonors her husband, even when he may give reason to do so, this undermines the marriage.  It is easy to see the defects and problems in the husband and even question, “You're the head?”  </div> <div>      On the wife's side, she needs care, comfort, understanding, trust and security with the assurance that the husband will do anything he can to support her in her walk with Christ for His purpose on the earth.  On the other side, the husband needs to know that he is the leader, the head, ordained by God Himself in His Word.  Husbands need encouragement and support through submission.  Submission is not what is portrayed of in the movies where women are slaves or objects, but a submission to the Lord's will and His arrangement for her.  This applies even when the situation is not the greatest because of the husband's faults or simpleness, etc.  The submissive wife learns to pay attention to Christ and His commission to her rather than what would undermine the marriage.  On the contrary she stands with her husband, supported him, upholding him.  And when he makes a mistake she learns to stand with him and seek to find a wise way to help the mistake not become a mistake if possible.</div> <div>      1 Peter 3:6 describes Sarah's reverence to her husband by saying that she called him, “Lord.”  Without such a view, the wife will undermine and become disgusted with her husband.  This only makes it that much harder for the husband to love you as the wife.  He feels naked, laid bare, when he should feel protected, supported and covered by his wife's affection and submission.  As soon as the wife questions the husband, he feels threatened and naked.  This is especially true in financial matters.  Wives often press the husband concerning the amount of money he makes or the amount she has to spend.  This is the greatest reason documented for divorce in America.  God placed the husband as the head and when the wife will not support him, even in weaknesses or mistakes, he feels naked, alone.  But when a wife honors, reveres and positively supports him, this melts his heart for her and enables him to seek the Lord.  It make take time for him to realize the Christ displayed through his wife, but over time he will notice the honoring, the support as a person.  For him to hear words like, “Honey, your such a good worker.  You're such a faithful provider.  You're a good father.”  Eventually this kind of submission creates a husband's love.</div> <div>      Can we see the wisdom of the Lord in His sovereign arrangement?  The husband needs to love his wife into submission (see previous message).  The wife needs to submit unto the receiving of love from her husband.</div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="id419.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Learn to be Women of Prayer, Quietness a"><U>Continue with "Learn to be Women of Prayer, Quietness and Productive Labor"</U></A></div> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>